I want a guy to fuck me am i gay
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Ask VICE is a series where readers ask VICE to solve their problems, from dealing with unrequited love to handling annoying flatmates. Today, we’re hoping to aid someone who is perplexed about their same-sex attraction to a friend.
Hey VICE,
I can’t stop thinking about having sex with a close friend of mine and it’s weird because I’ve never, in my 23 years, been attracted to men before. Of course, I notice when a guy is great looking – I’ve always owned up to that – but I’ve only ever been sexually interested in women.
Now, though, I’m having dirty thoughts about my friend – when I see him, when I look him up on social media, when I masturbate – ever since he broke up with his girlfriend six months ago. He’s bisexual and has started hooking up with men too, so I keep thinking: ‘Why not with me?’
I’ve even tried watching gay porn to understand my situation better, but I didn’t like it. At the same time, I perceive almost too good when I’m around him – our bromance moments disarm me. He knows this too, and he plays into it quite a bit. A week ago, he said he was drunk and kissed me. He told me maybe it’d be better if we went home
People are all too fast to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Internet dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to confess it. Dating a neutrois person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I perceive , because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two homosexual German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as lgbtq+ as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can comprehend our sexuality a minute better.
So you’ve got an inkling you’re not totally straight, but how carry out you know for sure?
“You may not
14."I went on a trip to a tropical country. I found a petty, secluded, resort-type place with a lock while exploring the area. I spent the entire morning there while the male, early 20s bartender served me. He had a blinding smile. At one point, he told me that no one else was around and that I could swim in the pool, naked, if I wanted. I said 'screw it' and did. He kept serving me drinks and talking, and I later said I was gonna get out and go decipher by the beach. He told me since no one else was there he was gonna close the area for an hour and that I didn't have to put my clothes back on. He walked me over to the hammock and kept complimenting my body. I was into it, so I didn't stop him. He sort of felt me up as I got into the hammock (I let him), and he eventually made his way down on me..."
"This was my first (and only) time a guy had gone down on me. He got naked and offered to go further. I told him I could try but only with protection. He came support with condoms, and I tried but couldn't stay up. He asked if he could endeavor, and at this point I just felt I was all in anyway, so I was down.
It was an interesting experience. I was taller and physically bigger and had never been
About gay male sexuality
Many men report that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. Men who move on to describe themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ have a robust physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually feel for women.
Being a gay bloke is natural
There is a lot of pressure from society for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. This can often cause feelings of isolation for young men who are gay and generate them scared to demonstrate their sexuality.
It’s key to remember:
- There are queer men in every customs and every country.
- Being lgbtq+ is just a create of sexuality.
Why some men are gay
There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. Although there is no right or incorrect answer to the ask, a possible reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation.
Knowing whether you’re gay
There is no test or questionnaire you can complete that will answer this question for you. If you reflect you might be same-sex attracted, it’s important that you:
- Don’t deny your feelings.
- Take your time to explore your sexuality
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Riese is the 43-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as adequately as an award-winning writer, video-maker, Diverse Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance designer who grew up in Michigan, missing her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish. Follow her on twitter and instagram.
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