As a christian how do i love my gay mother

“You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”

When you develop a parent, you realize to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can arrange them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a charming future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your head around this.

If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has come out as homosexual or lesbian, then this is for you.

I encourage you to sit down, relax, maybe get a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to tell you. My hope is to guide you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may begin to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll get to that. But at the bottom of it all, this is not about you. Most parents’ first mistake is to mak

A Gay Son's Tribute to His Mom

My mom was born in China and didn't know the Lord. She came to America for graduate institution, but instead married my father against her parents' wishes. Because of her strained relationship with her parents, she longed to create a new family with my father where she could belong and be loved. With complicated work and persistence, my mother helped my father receive two doctoral degrees and establish a flourishing dental practice.

On the outside, they were living the "American Dream." They seemed to have it all: a new aspire home in the suburbs of Chicago, two luxury cars, and two sons in dental school. According to the ways of the world, my mother should have been cheerful. But she was completely miserable. I knew this because even when I was a child and my parents argued—which was often—I was the shoulder on which my mother would cry. They had already begun the paperwork for a divorce when I decided to craft a public declaration.

On May 17, 1993, I came home after my first year at the University of Louisville Institution of Dentistry and announced to my parents: "I am gay." This devastated my mom. News of my death woul

“Mom, Dad… I’m Gay.” A Christian Parent’s Response

Rachel Held Evans concludes her blog post If my son or daughter were gay with this paragraph:

If God blesses Dan and me with a child who is gay, I would want that child to recognize without a challenge that he or she is loved unconditionally. I would want her to know nothing could separate her from the love of God in Christ. I would desire her to understand that she isn’t broken, she isn’t an embarrassment, she isn’t a disappointment.  May I be part of creating a world in which I will not have to protect her from the bullies.

I believe Rachel’s motivation is to produce a more welcoming and loving environment in the church for those who identify themselves as homosexuals, or who struggle with gay desire. I like and agree with her motive, and must say that I’ve learned from her in this area of creature much more attentive in how I speak and record about homosexuality.

However, I would disagree Rachel in two areas.

First, she doesn’t communicate any concern about the sinfulness of queer desires nor the immorality of lesbian actions. She seems to convey that homosexual desires are

How should Christian parents respond if one of their children comes out as gay?

Answer

If a child reveals his or her homosexuality, the first thing for Christian parents to execute is let their minor know that, no matter what, love and grace will win the night. Mom and dad’s care will continue, regardless. First John 4:8 says, “The one who does not love does not perceive God, for God is love.” There is nothing to be gained by callousness, denial, or denunciation. Rather, “God’s kindness is intended to lead [a person] to repentance” (Romans 2:4).

Our children (like ourselves) have heart issues. We’re not trying to place good fruit on horrible trees; we are passionately praying for our wayward children that God would heal the roots of the tree—that He might remove their heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh (see Ezekiel 36:26).

Parents should also encourage a child who has “come out” not to specify himself as a “homosexual.” It’s important to request questions: Are you in a relationship? Is the relationship sexual or platonic? Have you acted out your feelings of lgbtq+ attraction, or are they just thoughts you have? Parents can come alongside a struggling child and help him

A Letter from a Christian Social Worker Who Is the Mother of a Gay Son & Following Jesus’ Example for Difficult Conversations

Editor’s Note: This month NACSW is pairing a couple of blog posts representing the voices of two Christians in social work on the intersection of LGBTQ issues and Christian faith. Our expect is that posting these two differing perspectives together will serve to broaden and deepen the conversation between Christians in social serve on important issues that are relevant to our empathetic of both our faith and our social work practice.

Post #1: A Letter from a Christian Social Worker Who Is the Mother of a Queer Son

I’m calling on the Christian Social Work Community to lead way on how to cure the LGBTQ population. As followers of Jesus and advocates of social justice, it is up to us to set the accepted for how Christians treat diverse, marginalized people. In doing this, we show the love and teachings of Jesus Christ. For many of us, this is why we went into social work practice in the first place. Christians needs our example and our leadership on this important issue.

I am sharing my story to help spark social change in this are